Alex and Maddy

Sunday, December 28, 2025

Happy Holidays

 There is always something magical around the holidays. Our regular hustle and bustle slows down and we have more time to just be and to enjoy each other.

And so it has been over this past 2 weeks. The kids are out of school and dance is on break. We have truly made the most of this family time! There have been family game nights almost every night. We are watching shows together and planning what trips we might want to take in the next year. It has truly been a time just enjoying family and being grateful for the life we live.

And so this week I am grateful for quiet days and memories made and celebrating the birth of our savior. And mostly for the miracle of two children who fulfilled my greatest dream and teach me daily what strength and determination and courage look like when you always CHOOSE JOY despite the struggles you have been dealt!

Ali












Monday, December 15, 2025

Life is BUSY!

 This past month has been a whirlwind! Busy doesn't even begin to describe it! But if I am being honest most of it is self imposed. Since my earliest memories, I have always been a "helper". I like to love on my people and it is important to me to give back to the people and organizations that have poured into our family. But if you know me, you know I don't do anything half way so I have a tendency to overextend and do more than I probably should. Bruce just shakes his head and reminds me I can say no, but he also understands that this is just me and I likely won't ever stop finding ways to give back.



Sweet Newman

Family Time at the Movies



TCU Football Game



Barn Time

DBU Soccer Game



This boy is such a snuggle bug

Most of the last month has been spent working on the Winter Strides gala for Stable Strides. I found myself in the role of Chairperson with two other amazing moms and we did everything in our power to raise money for the program we all love dearly. Maddy has grown and thrived so much over the 18 months we have been at Stable Strides. Anyone who knows her can see the change in her and the best way for me to show my gratitude was by trying to ease some of the financial strain that is inherent in any nonprofit,  but even more so when using horses as your tool. The event was amazing and I am so glad we put on a fun event. My only regret is that I didn't get any pictures of Maddy because I was so busy. But if you had asked me a year ago if we could go to an event and I would barely see my child because she was having fun with her friends I wouldn't have believed it. But Stable Strides has brought us a social network that we love. Maddy has so many friends and trusts so many of the adults she doesn't need to be glued to my side! 

Trying to get Newman to paint

Maddy and Emerson
Maddy, Me, Lyndsey, Laura
Maddy and Lyndsey

I am also pretty busy with my volunteer work at Cook Children's. I am the sole Parent representative on the Emotional Safety Steering Committee. I am really enjoying that work. Cook Children's is amazing in so many ways, but they do a better job than any hospital i have seen in truly practicing family centered care and recognizing that each patient is unique and so having the patient and family as partners in care is the most effective way to practice. I have also been the CLABSI HAC which works on Central Line Infection prevention and I have been asked to come back to the FAC as the Chair elect as they are needing some leadership on that committee. 

Besides all of that the kids are living their best lives and I am their transportation, their nurse and their partner in crime. I wouldn't trade any of it. I am always aware of all of my friends who would give anything for the busyness of our days. And I never lose sight of the fact that I used to pray for days out of the hospital when my kids could enjoy some "normal" activities. Alex is set to graduate on time in May of 2027 with a BA in Psychology and a BA in History. He loves being a college student and having time with friends. He is such an amazing young man. he works hard, he keeps his faith at the center of everything he does and he is an incredible friend. He shows up for his friends when they need him and is patient and loving to everyone. Maddy is loving her new partner Newman and continues to improve in her horsemanship. She works hard and loves taking incredible care of her horses. She is also such a graceful dancer loves her two classes with Ms. Joli each week. She has a private lesson once a week and a class with some other Homeschooled girls a second day. I love to watch her being silly with her friends and chatting and laughing like a typical preteen girl.

Final Rehearsal
Ms. Joli's Cottage School of Fine Arts
Maddy's Class Dance- Ryla, Esme, Nayeli, Maddy

Maddy as the Snow Princess
Solo as the Snow Princess
Joli is so Amazing with her students
DBU Christmas Tree Lighting
Alex and his friends at Activate
Maddy and Lyndsey with Newman

Medically Alex is doing really well. He has a lot of appointments over the next month as he tries not to miss classes for appointments. Dr. k is a bit concerned about some new symptoms so we do need to complete a test here over break and then a second test in Houston during the summer. For Maddy there isn't anything new, but some lingering issues that are definitely hard on her most days. We are continuing to try and find ways to support her body while still allowing her to do the things she loves. We had a VERY LONG appointment at Scottish Rite the first week of December as we move closer to her first knee surgery. While the appointment was long, Maddy and I felt better after meeting the team and talking through some of the concerns and coming up with a plan to keep her as stable as possible through the surgery and recovery.

I have several friends who are going through some really hard times right now. It has been a reminder of how quickly circumstances can change and how important it is to live our days being kind and choosing joy!

Thank you for making our days better by being a part of our lives!

Ali

Tuesday, November 18, 2025

Unexpected Changes

 Sometimes Life throws you a curveball and sometimes it comes courtesy of your coaches!

On November 14, 2024 we arrived at the barn and Mandy and Katie met us outside with mischievous grins on their faces. They asked Maddy if she was willing to play a game with them that day. It was on that day that we walked into the barn to be shocked by Quigley. That day of fun led to a year of memories, laughter and smiles. But if I'm being honest also a bit of frustration at times. While Quigley was amazing to ride with a smooth comfortable canter and the most gorgeous floaty trot, he had ground manners that were challenging. None of us are able to "force" a horse to do anything,, but especially when you are 74 pounds soaking wet and are trying to make a huge, young dinosaur respect you and cooperate. By June Maddy was honest with me and shared that she wanted to consider ending her lease on Quigley after NSBAs because of how frustrating it was at times. But he was so amazing at Palomino Worlds that Maddy decided to keep pushing through the hard days. But for the past year her number one goal has been to go to some small, local hunter jumper shows. Week after week, Mandy and Keeya worked with them, but Quigley is extremely lazy and is not super consistent at jumping. He much prefers to just step over the poles and Maddy doesn't have the physical strength to coerce him into it.

And so last Monday (November 10), Maddy and I arrived at the barn for her lesson and Mandy approached Maddy asking is she liked and trusted her and Keeya. When she said yes, they let her know they wanted her to try another horse...someone who is very well rounded has done extremely well in World shows in multiple disciples AND loves to jump. Maddy said yes and....

Meet Newman (EZ Hunting)....








Newman has been at Stable Strides since we first got here, but we had never really paid much attention. Monday Maddy jumped him over some small cross rails. Tuesday she rode him both English and Western and did both trail and Showmanship. But she still wasn't 100%. Friday she rode and jumped again and as soon as her lesson was over she decided she wanted to switch her lease from Quigley to Newman. Maddy has had a fun week and I have heard comments like "this is the most fun I've had in a while" and "he is so sweet" and perhaps the highest form of praise "he reminds me of Lila Bean".  And so we begin a new adventure with a new partner. 

I am SO proud of Maddy as I watch her approach these hard choices and decisions with so much maturity and an open mind. And I am so grateful for coaches that always have Maddy's best interest at heart and know her and her goals and want to set her up to achieve her dreams even when that means making hard choices.  And what a blessing to be part of a program that has built a foundation of trust and empowered Maddy to make those choices knowing she will be loved no matter what she decides. The growth I have seen and the joy she expresses help us know that we are exactly where we are meant to be. I am so excited to watch this new partnership grow!

And maybe will watch out next November as Maddy has now decided this month is "New Horse November"!!!!

Ali

Saturday, November 8, 2025

Answered Prayers

 God hears all of our prayers and always answers, but sometimes those answers are no or not yet. This past week was a week of answered prayers in many ways some completely unexpected. I am not even sure where to start so I apologize if this is a bit all over the place. 

This was the first year I didn't trick or Treat in 21 years!!

Last weekend Maddy had the Appaloosa World Show in Fort Worth. Maddy has shown at this show every year since 2021 and typically has been extremely successful! Maddy has 7 World Champion and 2 Reserve Champion trophies from this show. This year she rode beautifully and still walked away with top 10 finishes in all her classes, but did not place as high as usual. But she never cares about placings and she had a lot of fun laughing and joking with her friends and just enjoying her time with Quigley. Sweet Quigley has the best personality and most of what we are asking of him is new to him. She is incredibly patient and loves how hard he always tries to do what she asks of him. Some days that communication is just a little more clear than other days! The NSBA always have signs up that say, "Love the horse first, and the sport second" and Maddy lives into that completely. It was at this show that we experienced one of our answered prayers. Last year when we left our old barn there were so many hard days and so many tears. Not only was Maddy ripped away from her horse and the only coach she had known, but an entire circle that we had lived life with for 3 years. (For those who don't know almost everyone stopped speaking to us, unfriended me on social media, and were not nice when we would run into them at shows) I prayed relentlessly for healing and restoration of those relationships. But those prayers weren't answered. Throughout the last 18 months maddy and I have often talked about the beauty of unanswered prayers as we have found ourselves encircled in a new team full of friends and teammates who have loved us and encouraged us and offered so much more camaraderie than we had ever experienced. Along with that Maddy has had two horses she loves dearly and a coach who believes in her and uses a much softer approach that has resonated with her. I have watched Maddy flourish in so many ways at Stable Strides and have loved how clearly we have seen that God's plans are so much better than what we can imagine. Maddy and I truly believed we were over the hurt and trauma and had no idea there was healing we still needed. But last Saturday we had a long forgotten prayer answered and in many ways was our favorite part of the show. As we made one last trip to the bathroom before I needed to get maddy ready for her first class, we ran into the mom that we were closest to. I said hello and was shocked when she not only responded but started a full blown conversation where we caught up on the kids and life. Maddy and I walked out with our mouths hanging open in shock. We spoke twice more that day and even got to catch up with her son. I came home in tears of thanksgiving as I realized how badly I needed that last bit of healing for my heart. It was such a beautiful reminder that sometimes God answers prayers when we least expect them!

Q is extra cuddly with his girl at shows!


And he always makes us smile!

Wade is so good with maddy and Quigley!

Let's see what else... Alex continues to thrive in every way possible. He amazes me daily with his faith and his servant heart. Not only is incredibly diligent as a student, but he pours into the community and the people around him at every turn. DBU would not be the school for everyone,  but for Alex it is the perfect place. And he takes advantage of all the opportunities that are offered. He loves to attend the honors symposiums where they have guest speakers and twice this year he has attended luncheons with chapel speakers. This past week he listened to an Iranian refugee and she was so touched by Alex's story and testimony that she has asked him to speak on a radio station that is broadcast to Iran where they are trying to spread Christianity. he also volunteered at a refugee apartment full of Afghan refugees who were not as open to  being surrounded by the DBU students, but they were amazed when Alex could repeat things from the Koran. I truly believe God has always had his hand on Alex's life and he has never shied away from the call to share his story and his heart with others. I could not be more proud of the young man he has become.

As I have shared, Maddy has had a rough six months medically. For several years she has felt like she needs to pee near constantly. It is a constant struggle that leaves her near tears often. She will sometimes be in the bathroom up to 5 times an hour. But beginning in late April she started experiencing more and more symptoms of a UTI along with extreme fatigue that has interfered with her favorite activities. We have done extensive testing that eventually led our pediatrician to refer her to Nephrology, but the wait for an appointment has been several months long. We finally had that appointment this week. We both loved the Doctor and especially that she had reviewed all testing and came in prepared with her impressions and a plan moving forward. She is almost certain Maddy has renal tubular acidosis which is seen frequently in Mitochondrial Disease. Basically, the tubules in your kidneys have millions of mitochondria to function. In Maddy's case those mitochondria are not removing the acid from her blood (causing the fatigue) this also means her urine PH is VERY high which leads to crystals in the urine and the formation of kidney stones ( multiple stones were seen in both kidneys on ultrasound). The crystals also cause the burning sensation and the inflammation that causes the feeling of needing to pee constantly. She has started one medication, but we may need to increase the dose or add a second medication if she does not get relief. The nephrologist wanted to be sure we weren't missing anything else so she also did some genetic testing to check for other causes of kidney stones, but does not expect anything to come back. After a few months of treatment we will need to have another ultrasound and repeat some other testing so we can be sure we are treating adequately to prevent long term kidney damage. She also let us know that any side or back pain or increase in symptoms should be considered a medical emergency and we need to head to the ER immediately. We have had several other appointments as well as an upcoming 4 hour appointment to prepare for her knee surgery next year. We are just so thankful for an amazing team of doctors that continue to treat Maddy and Alex and keep them as stable as possible so they can live their best lives. 

This has become a pretty common site!

This has been a long few weeks for me as we continue to struggle to adequately treat and keep my thyroid levels in range. Between managing the kids care, their activities, my volunteer work and a thyroid that won't cooperate the exhaustion is pretty bad at times. I try to keep going because as soon as I allow myself to sit and relax I doze off and Maddy is stuck waking me up! But I am hoping the latest medication adjustments and treating my allergy issues and inflammation will alleviate the fatigue soon!

I am so very thankful for our village. I am constantly reminded of how blessed we are by the family and friends in our lives. I cannot imagine walking this journey without those who love us so well!

Ali

Friday, October 31, 2025

Happy 12th Birthday!

 


Oh my Precious Maddy Moo-

Twelve years....I have had twelve years of loving you! This year has been one of my favorite with you! It has been so fun to watch you really find yourself this year. You continue to amaze me with your determination and commitment to making your dreams come true. But instead of letting others lead the way, this year I watched you take the reins and guide your path. You have continued to be my beautiful ballerina and talented equestrian, but you have set a different path and advocated for what you want. Seeing your courage to speak up for yourself and your dreams is the answer to so many prayers. This year I watched you find joy as you felt loved in every aspect of your life. This year has been so special as i have been the spectator to see you making friends, competing all over the country, and learn. I have loved our girls trips, our school time, our chats, our laughter, our inside jokes, watching dance mom, listening to music...all of it. I love you my incredible, courageous, determined, hardworking, sassy little firecracker. And I could not be more proud of you!

Love,

Mom

Monday, October 27, 2025

Where do the days go?

 Since returning home from All American Quarter Horse Congress it feels like its been a whirlwind! Maddy and I have been in full swing with ballet, barn, school, volunteer work and a bunch of doctors appointments. Some days our schedule is crazy, but we are always grateful for a life we love and people who mean the world to us!

We haven't really gotten any clear cut answers for Maddy and she continues to struggle most days just not feeling great, but she never complains and never skips her activities. Usually I am the only one who she tells she isn't feeling well. It has been a bit frustrating for me as I wish the doctors could offer her some relief. Next week we FINALLY see the nephrologist and I am so hopeful we will start to make progress. We have seen our local neurologist and tweaked some meds to try and help her near daily migraines. She continues to be very cooperative during our school work. She is learning her dances for her Winter Recital and prepping for her next horse show. In Maddy's world, life goes on and you keep smiling regardless of how you feel!

Trail at Congress

Our Goofball

Hart is the best sport and puts up with us torturing him!

If Maddy learned how to live life to the fullest from anyone, it was from Alex. I am immeasurably proud of him. He has lived one of the hardest lives I know and yet he cares for others and strives to be his best in all circumstances. His semester is more than half over and he is doing amazing in all his classes. He enjoys his time with his friends and his Esports team. He is officially double majoring in Psychology and History and looking forward to attending Graduate School. He knows the reality of his life and is determined to make the most of his time and his life. Somedays I have to take a step back and appreciate the miracle of these days and Thank God. It truly is special and I never want to lose sight of that. 

Alex commentating an Esports match

While the kids definitely keep me busy I am busy of my own doing lately as well. I have suffered from pretty bad allergies my whole life and got shots when I was younger. My PCP had sent me back to an allergist last month and last week I spent a full day at the allergists office to have a RUSH procedure to speed up the process to get my allergies back under control. I am not going to lie it kind of kicked my butt and I felt pretty under the weather until today. But I am hoping this will be the first step forward to feeling better. I have also stepped back into quite a bit of Volunteer Work with Cook Children's. I am back on the Family Advisory Council, remain on the CLABSI committee to try and prevent Central Line infections, and most recently was asked to be the parent representative on the Emotional Safety Steering Committee. This may be my favorite project I have ever worked on as it hits so close to home. I am also volunteering on several projects with Maddy's Therapy program. While the kids medical journeys have kept me from working, I enjoy using my gifts and my experience to give back to those organizations that have been so instrumental to my kids living their best lives!

This week is a big week as we celebrate Maddy's 12th Birthday, Halloween and the Appaloosa World Show! Thank you for loving us well!

Ali

Tuesday, October 14, 2025

What a Week

 This past week has been a whirlwind! What an amazing experience it was for maddy and I to attend the All American Quarter Horse Congress. These last few days reminded me once again how special it is be surrounded by amazing equestrians who are even better people!

This was a week Maddy has been dreaming of for the past 15 months. While there were some hard moments, there were more fun times and big smiles.  It was a week we won't soon forget.

Maddy competed in 5 classes and walked away with 3 top 10 finishes in the deepest competition she has ever faced. I walked away with my heart full as I saw my girl push through the tough times to make her and Quigley the best they can be and be supported by friends and teammates. Watching the Equestrian with Disabilities classes and events is truly special. These riders are incredible athletes and fierce competitors, but even better friends. They encourage one another, they cheer each other on, and offer heartfelt congratulations despite their own disappointment. We could all learn from them. They epitomize what good sportsmanship should look like! Enjoy our week through pictures!

Quigley was so happy to see Maddy


EWD Welcome Dinner

Two Jesus Loving Horse Girls

SSF Team after dinner

Mason and Maddy

Robert giving Maddy a massage after a hard practice

Jackie doing Maddy's makeup




Showmanship Reserve Champion

Best Volunteer and Show Dad

Dinosaur Horsemanship






Trail

Maddy and Amy

The three Musketeers

Maddy and Erin always try and retire to the wall near each other

Happy girl after English

Quigs loading up to head home

A job well done!