Alex and Maddy

Tuesday, April 28, 2026

Where does time go?

 Where do the days, weeks, and months go? I cannot believe it will be May this week. And Alex is two weeks away from finishing his Junior year at DBU!!!

Alex is having another amazing semester. He continues to grow and thrive. The difference in his maturity, organization, time management, and the quality of his work is leaps and bounds from that first year. I love to have a front row seat to watching him truly become the man God created him to be. I am so glad for God's perfect plan that led us to visit DBU and that he knew it was the right place for him. He is surrounded, by professors, friends and faculty that draw him closer to God and remind him of who he is. As a Mom seeing him loved well and nurtured in his faith is more than I could have asked for. I am so grateful for all the incredible professors and mentors who truly see Alex and look beyond his medical challenges to help him achieve goals and work towards a life that we once only prayed he would live long enough to see. He met with the coach of the Esports team last week and was asked to be a captain of his team and also be the Community outreach director for the entire program. He is so excited to take on these new roles and to continue as the in game commentator for the Esports matches he isn't playing in. He is also in the process of setting up an internship at Cook Children's over the summer where he will shadow his Pain Management doctor and ensure that that is the direction he hopes to pursue one day. He couldn't imagine completing his internship anywhere other than the hospital that has poured so much into him and saved his life countless times over the past 15 years.  Medically he continues to be stable.


My Maddy moo continues to keep working hard and living life no matter what she has going on. She is managing her back pain well and her PMR doctor has decided she does not want to brace her. I had to giggle because she said exactly the same thing as PT used to say all the time when she was little. There is a very fine line between keeping her joints stable and still making her "work" to build muscle. The fear is that by bracing her back she won't have to use as much core muscles to stabilize and that could lead to further issues down the line. And so we continue to manage the pain and let her guide the path with A LOT of input from me. She NEVER complains and will push herself through all pain until she physically can't do any more. 

Right after we returned from our last show, Mandy left for her yearly vacation. Last year, Maddy really struggled when Mandy was gone and after one half lesson where she was in tears and having major anxiety she asked to not ride again until Mandy came back. Mandy and I chatted before she left and we made the decision that if Maddy showed any signs of anxiety we would just take a break until she returned. She has come so far and we did not want to take any steps backwards. Well, what a difference a year makes she has had 4 lessons with 4 different coaches (2 she had never met before) and she has done great in all 4 lessons and even jumped in three of them. I am so proud of her for pushing through fear and doing what she loves. I am SO grateful for Mandy, Keeya and our SSF team, other coaches, and volunteers who love Maddy, who understand her and know how to support her in every circumstance. What a blessing this Barn family has been to us.




Maddy is also hard at work in her dance classes. She has three dances for her Spring Performance. Her ballet solo which will feature her and Alex! And a ballet and tap number with her class. She is also dancing the part of the dove in our church musical. We are just about finished with our school curriculum for this year and have already picked out curriculum for next year so we are ready to start our summer complete with all the horse shows and family time we can manage. 

Thank you to those of you who continue to faithfully pray for our family.

Ali

Wednesday, April 15, 2026

What a week!

 What a week it has been! I am not always sure how to put things into words and to share how special these days and weeks are. At times I wish I could go back 20 years to that scared mom who was worried that motherhood of a medically fragile child would end too soon and be filled with nothing but disappointment and heartbreak. And while we have certainly had our fair share of scary, hard times, we are also blessed with such a beautiful life that I never could have imagined. 



Alex continues to thrive in every way and just this week was asked to serve two positions within DBU Esports. The first is as the captain of one of the teams. The second is as the Outreach Director for all of DBU Esports. It is so fun to watch him find his way and be recognized for his gifts. He is such a gift as a son. And I could not be more proud of him!




Maddy and I headed to Florida this week for a short visit with my mom and Jenn and then to compete at the World Equestrian Center in Ocala. While we always have fun with our barn family at horse shows, this one was the most fun we have ever had. There was a small group of us attending with Stable Strides as it was the first time the WEC had Equestrians with Disabilities classes at one of their shows. The grounds are absolutely amazing. The stalls and arenas are top notch and everyone was so accepting and kind of our group. Maddy and Newman had an exceptional show, but it was the camaraderie between our team and competitors that really made a difference. I am not sure we have ever had a show where we laughed more in the warmups and just enjoyed ourselves this much. The horse world is small and the EWD horse world smaller yet. So we often compete against the same teams at all of the main shows. Because there were not a lot of EWD competitors at this show we were able to spend so much time together enjoying friendship and fellowship. We had a pizza party with our biggest competitors and we spent so much time chatting and laughing in the warmups. It was overall just a fun time and filled our souls. Maddy cannot wait to go back to this show next year. It is officially our favorite horse show. And competing with her best boy made it even better!

Maddy and Skye

Maddy and Mimi

Newmie


What better place to relax then in your horse's stall

Heading to show

Newman thinks everything is food including her helmet

Jesus is always with us

This team prayed together before each class

Taking out Newmie's tail

Bathtime with Caroline

Amy and Maddy said their favorite part was shopping

Scratches for the best boy

Maddy and Dyann are always cutting up

Maddy and Patrick practicing



Amy and Maddy spent the whole week side by side


English day


Mandy is so amazing with Maddy



Team Stable Strides

Family Pics- Wade is Maddy's show dad

Forrest, Patrick and Maddy with Corbett

An amazing week



In not as great news...when I say Maddy is tough, I mean it. The kid literally NEVER complains. I can usually tell if she isn't feeling great, but she very rarely tells me unless I really push. She just doesn't want her medical issues to slow her down or keep her from doing what she loves. Since about November she had been complaining about her back hurting when riding western. Our barn family has teased her that she just wants to get out of riding Western since she loves English. But I always assured her I believed her because she just isn't one to make excuses. Still I was a bit shocked when we received her MRI report on her spine shortly before we left for Florida showing a compression fracture in her thoracic spine and degeneration in three discs. Luckily, we have the most incredible medical team and Mandy is equally as amazing. Her doctors agreed to allow her to continue riding as long as she could tolerate the pain and Mandy, Maddy, and I worked together to keep her as comfortable as possible. We have seen our PMR doctor and neurologist and spoken to our endocrinologist and Mito specialist. Everyone is in agreement that the cause is a combination of her severe hypermobility along side osteoporosis. The doctors are all discussing what if any treatment is needed and more importantly how to move forward preventing more spinal fractures. Our neurologist also wants to consult with a neurosurgeon just to be sure we are taking everything into consideration. In the mean time, Maddy continues to push herself and ride and is laughing about having a broken back complete with giving Bruce a hard time if he dares to complain about anything hurting. She really has had a good attitude and has only made one small comment otherwise when she said "see I told your my back was hurting when I did Western." 

I would ask for prayers for a good plan for Maddy and continued good health for Alex.

Thank you for loving our family.

Ali